Quote Originally Posted by Tojo View Post
I think even if minx's post had been about airing her 'dirty laundry' she has a right to do so. Should we all keep quiet about having our trust broken by someone, just because they're known to someone else?

Geez that'd be half the posts in the forum!

Good post Whippett.
Agreed!

Where do you go when you have a problem? To Those you Respect and Trust and wish input from. Many PPL go to Groups They are a part of for this reason.

When there is a breakup of a Relationship and Both Parties are in the same Groups, have the same Friends etc, online or RT or both, are They supposed to "throw out the baby with the bath water" so to speak?

Is it not possible to remain a Friend to Each of Them? Listen to Each of Them? Answer Each of Them? Care for Each of Them? Each Person is still who They are. All that has changed is Their Relationhship status. And yeah, most times there's an aftermath. Why is there such a propensity for picking sides? Why is that even necessary? Why can't PPL just remain the same Friends They were before, and just Learn to care for Each person seperately?

I think in part this is because when there is a breakup it scares PPL, as in *This could be me*. It brings the Truth and Fragilty of Relationship(s) Home. Noone is Guaranteed one more minute with Those They Love and care for, no more than any of Us are Guaranteed one more breath. Things Change, and PPL can Grow in different directions, for whatever reason(s). It's many times not a pleasant process.

We should All be able to speak After, just as Before, in the places We go, with the PPL We talk with. And receive the same Respect, Care, and Advice. Without being slapped, put down, or Judged, for Needing that.

Yeah, it might be "dirty laundry" sometimes. But that's the process of cleaning it up.

Respectfully~SidheWolf