I would suggest you have an open discussion with your sub. This is one suggestion, you could start with something simple like making your sub visit a site like this for at least an hour a night, so your sub can find out what excites him/her and if the sub misses time on line punishment will occure.

It's an unspoken rule with my Sir Daddy, but I know that I will be gagged with every spanking so that I can't talk while being punished. I would rather not have the gag but I respect his athority.

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