Can I have it all?

[Ozme52]

Absolutely, Ozme! I refuse to be a relationship with anyone who did not respect me! I've gone the route where I was treated like I was worthless, where my ex literally did not care whether I lived or died. Never again!

I never really understood the 'worthless' adjective. I don't own worthless stuff. Nor would I want to show people I have worthless stuff.

My girl better be damned proud to be mine. And damned proud of herself. I have great taste and find it insulting if she were to think herself worthless.

But ya gotta love an enthusiastic, do-anything-for-you, slut in the bedroom.

[Euryleia]

I never really understood the 'worthless' adjective. I don't own worthless stuff. Nor would I want to show people I have worthless stuff.

My girl better be damned proud to be mine. And damned proud of herself. I have great taste and find it insulting if she were to think herself worthless.

But ya gotta love an enthusiastic, do-anything-for-you, slut in the bedroom.

Amen, brother! I can't think of a word to add to your great reply.

[cadence]

I never really understood the 'worthless' adjective. I don't own worthless stuff. Nor would I want to show people I have worthless stuff.

My girl better be damned proud to be mine. And damned proud of herself. I have great taste and find it insulting if she were to think herself worthless.

But ya gotta love an enthusiastic, do-anything-for-you, slut in the bedroom.

I think the word "worthless" may be misconstrued a bit.
I don't think that anyone would want to be considered worthless, but the general meaning itself is more akin to the humiliation aspects of the sexual side of things, being treated as an object or a toy.
I suppose the term gets thrown around too loosely at times.

I like the word to be used on me sometimes, but I do know that it is not used in any sort of demeaning way, I am still greatly respected, and still respect myself when all is said and done.
If the word was being used as a means to berate me, I would know it, and I wouldn't appreciate it.

As for having it all, sure you can if you put your mind to it, if you know what you want and set a path to get it.
It is not going to go the way you planned though, it takes work, effort, determination and a considerable amount of communication to work your way through the pitfalls you may encounter.
Hope you find what you are looking for.

[Ozme52]

I think the word "worthless" may be misconstrued a bit.
I don't think that anyone would want to be considered worthless, but the general meaning itself is more akin to the humiliation aspects of the sexual side of things, being treated as an object or a toy.
I suppose the term gets thrown around too loosely at times.

I like the word to be used on me sometimes, but I do know that it is not used in any sort of demeaning way, I am still greatly respected, and still respect myself when all is said and done.
If the word was being used as a means to berate me, I would know it, and I wouldn't appreciate it.

As for having it all, sure you can if you put your mind to it, if you know what you want and set a path to get it.
It is not going to go the way you planned though, it takes work, effort, determination and a considerable amount of communication to work your way through the pitfalls you may encounter.
Hope you find what you are looking for.

I understand perfectly what you are saying cadence, but consider this. Language reflects what we think... and what we think can also reflect the language we use. So if a submissive uses the word 'worthless' often enough he or she might well come to believe it about themselves... and if a dom/me uses the word often enough enough he or she will eventually convince themselves that their sub is indeed valueless.

I've talked to enough subs who are indeed insecure enough that they have come to believe it and can no longer even accept any compliment without cutting themselves down.

No... some otherwise perjorative words work real well in the lifestyle... slut is one of them... but worthless? That one is like a self fulfilling prophecy. Actually... they both are... but while within the lifestyle 'slut' seems to be goal-worthy... worthless is just destructive.