A good point GS42, a D/s relationship is what you & Himself want to make it, not what it says in the Dom manual.

One observation- D/s can & usually does bring up all sorts of stuff, which needs addressing in some way.

Things change- the way we feel is constantly changing, & just like any relationship, a D/s one needs to be flexible.


You seem to be trying to 'figure it out' Hime, from what I can gather. What's important is how you feel, not who's who & what's what.

Writing things down, as Euryleia says is a well known technique for communication & for working out how you feel yourself. Perhaps you could sit down & write out your wildest fantasy? You don't even have to show anyone else.

One last comment- (voice of experience stuff!) change of any sort always seems scary. Hell, I used to be a sub for years & years, & now am a Dom- don't think that was easy.