Hmm.. How quickly I met someone depended on how much of a good vibe I got from them, you know, whether I think they could be trustworthy or not.

I started talking to this guy Mike from b.com and we chatted fror maybe 10 minutes and ten minutes the next day and decided to go for coffee. That was two years ago and we're close friends and I'm going to be moving in with him and his sub temporarily until I get an apartment with another friend named Brandon that I met off of collarme a year ago >.>

Sometimes ppl straight away, sometimes we'd talk on the phone for a few weeks, it all depended on the person.

Generally I've been smart about meeting ppl online and havent had any bad experiences. One guy did cancel a date with me simply because I refused to go to breakfast with him without any underwear - and hey thats okay with me >.> Guys like that arent worth my time.

If I get a good feeling about a Dom, and I trust him enough, generally it will lead to more (and when I say "more", i mean play, not a relationship specifically). In the past three years that I've been meeting people, I've made some local friends my age (which is nice), some play partners, and had a lot of good experiences.

The most difficult thing is seperating fantasy bdsm from the actual reality of it. I've met fakes and guys that simply wanted sex, I've been pushed Too far too quickly on the second date, I've met amatuers that didnt know what they were doing (dangerously so), I've been brought to limits I didn't know I had. It's been a very eye opening experience for me, and I've gotten smarter for it.

Aside from all the wonderful kinky sex and service, Doms have to realize that she isn't going to like Every little thing you do. There are going to be things that turn her off, there are kinks that she may not enjoy, there will be a point where she may Resist, even. Subs are not toys to be used for sex then discarded.

Subs need to be aware that they can be taken advantage of, and and if you don't set limits that you can get a very harsh wake up call. You are always responsible for your own safety, regardless. Be aware of risks, know your worth, and demand payment in kind.

For a first meeting, expectations can be bad unless both partners have communicated those expectations. Everyone dominates differently and that too, needs to be taken into consideration. How one dominates online May be different than how one dominates in rl, but not necessarily. Thinking of the person your meeting as a longtime friend makes the situation more comfortable as well, don't try to 'impress', just relax enough that you can try to be yourself.