this applies to everyone but many will feel its mostly advice for the girls :the best advice i can give from personal experience is to have a responsible third party to monitor your whereabouts and or condition with frequent checks preferably in person or at a near distance by phone, if for no other reason than to be there as a saftey net in case things go wrong, ie yu dont call them by a certian time -they call the cops etc, its best to have them follow u where ever a first time meeet Dom is taking u,, its preferable to tell the Dom up front that u must check in etc, but not nessesarally good to tell him where the third party is etc, lest u get yur friend taken along with yu and have no saftey net,,its also advisable that this saftey net stay in place at least a month or more, until yur absolutly sure about trusting the Dom completely>> i didnt do the above the one and only time i went to meet a dom that i had talked with online, He was nice at first for about a week, then everything went to a living hell for the next 3 months,, all i can say is i am very lucky to have survived,( six months of surgeries and another six affraid to even go outside later)i see it was pure luck fate what have u and above and beyound efforts of my current Master / Husband i dont believe i would be here today to share this lil bit of wisdom for all you "going to meet someone for the first time" people,, ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,it is my scensirest hope that noone ever have to learn what i did the way i did, be safe, be careful, be wiser than i was,


sorry btw Tojo i didnt intend to share my negative experience but i have a deep seated need to try and keep others safer in thier dealings than i was in my haste to hook up so many yrs ago,, on the bright side all did work out for me in the end