I think it's known as "resistance play". Unfortunately there doesn't seem to be much about it online, and much of what I did find via google defines that as specifically physical resistance, i.e., wrestling or "fighting" for forceful control, which is a more restrictive definition than I'm used to.
I have a friend who's got a fair amount of experience with it, I think. I'll ask her next time I see her online, but her online appearances are sporadic at best. :/