Wow, Warbaby!

Great question(s) and lots to think about.

Quote Originally Posted by Warbaby1943
Anyway again I ask, is there always your Dominant and/or submissive needs that must be met first before you can have an enjoyable sexual encounter?
No, they don't for me.

If you sometimes do only engage in a vanilla sexual encounter, are you at the same time fantasizing about the fetish activities that you normally enjoy to get you in the mood, so to speak?
No and sometimes, yes. It all depends on what's happening at the moment.

Sometimes it's the fantasies that spark the encounter.
* wink, wink, nudge, nudge *
Writing erotica can be quite a turn on.

Can you get into the mood without these BDSM activities or at least thinking about them?
Yes.

To my way of thinking, I believe that once you have become used to these BDSM activities, no matter what they are, you may need them to become aroused. This may depend on the intensity of those activities...
I'd have to counter that thought with another,
"variety is the spice of life".

Sometimes an arousing thing can be the look in a partner's eyes, the smile that's just for you, a flip of the hair... whatever the trigger that turns you on.

While BDSM activities can lead to arousal,
for me, they are not exclusive to causing that state.

Until joining this forum I never before even imagined this type of question let alone having a venue to ask it.
Go you, Warbaby! Keep asking away.

Who's next? Enquiring minds want to know.