Quote Originally Posted by submissivewife
For me, I don't need BDSM to always have a climax. It's nice, but not always needed. To me since I lean more toward the slave side of things having vanilla sex is an act of submission by giving my body as my partner wants.

There are times when I really need the S&M side of things. Usually, it's not all that often. Dominance is mostly what I seek. Submitting my body in "vanilla" sex is still, to me, a submissive act. Does it fullfill all of my desires, no....am I able to be aroused and have an orgasm, yes definitely.
Submissivewife,

Are you saying that if your partner wants vanilla sex he is asking for it because he knows that you have to submit to his wishes to have it that way? Does he request vanilla sex because he knows you'd rather have it with BDSM activities included and just the act of you having sex that way is another way of him exercising his dominance over you? That in itself sounds thrilling, you get the best of both worlds all the time. I think you are very fortunate.

Thanks for the input.