Does it always have to be

[submissivewife]

Submissivewife,

Are you saying that if your partner wants vanilla sex he is asking for it because he knows that you have to submit to his wishes to have it that way? Does he request vanilla sex because he knows you'd rather have it with BDSM activities included and just the act of you having sex that way is another way of him exercising his dominance over you? That in itself sounds thrilling, you get the best of both worlds all the time. I think you are very fortunate.

Thanks for the input.

Yes, it is thrilling. In my opinion, whatever my dom want, whether it be vanilla, D/s, or S&M sex it is thrilling. It is all in the mind of the submissive and how she looks at the act.