I have been in an online D/s relationship for a little over a month now. I have learned a lot about myself in the process. Things I never imagined I would deal with in a situation that has no physical contact. Self doubt, neediness, emotional extremes, happiness, sadness, pleasure, pain. I have run the gamut in regards to my emotions. I have also learned patience, discipline, self respect, respect for others and how to communicate more effectively. I fully believe that this is a real relationship. What kind of relationship? Well it is too early to tell. But I have never for one moment thought of it as a game. When you let someone into your most secret places you have to trust them. Trust always involves some level of emotion and commitment. I could never share the things I have with Him if I did not trust him. I honestly cannot imagine going into some sort of relationship with a Dom online or in real life with the attitude that it is just a game and feelings have no place. Not only is it unhealthy, it is a complete waste of time for everyone involved. I can honestly say that when I first joined this site I too was offered many times to be someone's slave. And there were a few I actually considered. But I think that the right combination has to be there. You can't just hook up with the any Dom you meet just to be dominated. We all have our own unique tastes and you have to find a Dom that fits that mold. Sometimes through trial and error, but eventually when you do get there it is so worth the wait. I am new and learning, so I am not a voice of experience, but I feel that what little I do know is worth sharing!