Quote Originally Posted by deigja View Post
There is a lot going on in my life these days.. I had a hard time losing my first Master/love.. and now it seems another really great guy found me. So we´re just starting into a life together or rather trxying to fit the other one in our lives without making them too complicated.
I´m still pretty new but compared to him I´m rather experienced in the D/s context. I will appreciate all advice on how to help him explore without taking too much lead.
So far he leaves a lot of initiative to me and so i suggest things.. leave it for him to decide what he actually wants to do...
I tease him sometimes to get a little harsher reaction on me.. which he immediately understands and ignores .. mpf.. as much as I like him to not always let me get away with things...
I believe you know that problem...
We also do talk a lot and so I know what he actually dreams of doing to me... I just don´t know how to let him know (I already told him) that I´m absolutely okay with all that we talked about, that he may well take the next step.
He wants to go slow, I know that, but I´d really like to encourage him to move on a little...
So is there anything I can do without harming the hirarchy between the two of us?
Thanx, deigja
Well a way my dom and I found to keep communication open and Ideas flowing is having a journal. I write in it every day and we read it together at the end of the week. He has made it a rule of ours that he will not punish me for anything I write in my Journal, as long as it is not a dom bashing book.

I write my desires, what turns me on, what I am willing to try, what I am not willing to try yet, etc. It not only refreshes my memory, but it helps keep the communication flowing. It works for us, so I thought I might share an idea to help you out if I can.