Originally posted by ShyGreenEyedGrl:
This is the first BDSM forum i have been a part of. Being relatively new to the lifestyle, i was extemely shy at first. This is a great place to meet like minded individuals. Everyone promotes a friendly, open learning environment here.
I agree totally, well except for the shy part. In r/l I'm more reserved. Here? Well sometimes I just can't shutup.

On a more serious note, as you read and begin to participate, you learn the dynamic here and how people relate. I read a thread where someone took offense to a comment another reader posted. I thought uh oh, here we go. But something strange happened. They worked it out. It turned out to be a misunderstanding. (Disappointing for people who like to see blood fly though )

It taught me a lot about the people here, and how to handle potential conflict. You have to cut folks some slack in a forum. We can't see the face of the speaker, so some of the subtleties of communication are absent; we can't hear their voice, so it's harder to pick up on humor or sarcasm; and there can be days or weeks between reponses in a conversation. Thats why we have to , hehe, *blush*, or -run away laughing-.

omg I just realized something, subtleties, subtle ties. Wow I'll have to learn some of those! -runs away laughing-