Quote Originally Posted by deigja View Post
Thanks Tojo.... for making this so clear. Yes he is in charge... and I´ll try to keep myself calm, from rushing, even if it is not really easy ;-)

And Thanks every one.. This thread reminds me all the time to let him move on as he wants... Once I know what I want I tend to want it immediately ( not one of my best traits *grins*) But there´s a lot of good advice here that keeps me thinking. I really don´t want to ruin this... so I´ll have to wait if I want to or not.

he has read this thread yesterday evening and I was a little afraid of hs reaction as I revealed some of my insecurities here. Do not misunderstand.. we talk a lot about what we do, whats going on, what we want, but I always tried to be supportive and did not tell him about my fear of ruining everything by making to much pressure.. so he knows this from the thread.
Now I´m really relieved as the reaktion was only an offer to talk about this as well.

Now I´m somehow angry about myself for not telling him... sometimes it´s just hard to be open all the time about everything... especially about fears and insecurities as I´m pretty used to dealing with my feelings all by myself. I never was a very open or trusting person even if I try to be with him. This seems to be another thing I´ll have to learn.
For days now I´m wondering how I came to trust him so fast... and it seems even here are some more steps to be taken... Until one day I do not fear his reation any more (which I´m sure will be really soon as I get to know him better and better).

Deigja
Deigja,

Don't be hard on yourself, as it is not easy to share every feeling you have, especially ones that you worry will hurt or upset someone you care about. The response you got was also the best one you could get!! To be able to discuss issues is the greatest gift you and your Dom can have.