I have to ask a few questions here since I seem to be confused now.

After reading this thread, I have summised, or at least I think I have, that the Gorean lifestyle is based on certain codes of conduct and certain philosiphies. It is primarily first and foremost a D/s relationship, without BDSM.
Am I correct in my thinking here?
Is BDSM incorporated into the relationship for a few or most Goreans?


It took me two long years to finally figure out where my submissive tendencies lay. I am happiest being a "slave" and from what I have gathered from hearing from others is that my idea of a being slave is no different than a kajira.
I know that I do live a D/s relationship, but with no BDSM at all.
I have kinks and fetishes as well, and now I am experiencing submission with BDSM.
I will always be submissive/slave or whatever you want to call me, without the kinks and fetishes. But I prefer to have both if I can.
Is this the same for Goreans?

I would like to hear about "the gift of submission" as well. That has piqued my interest.