Hi all... i'm asking for opinion or suggesstion or whatever to make it work to me...

when i play sometimes my mind didn't connect to my body... it's like my body can get wet but i don't feel a things in my mind except if u inflict pain... i can feel pain coz it's hurt, but when it come to pleasure seems my mind didn't connected into it... sometimes i can feel it but kinda rarely... in bdsm i can give pain to the sub n it's fun n connect to my mind, but in bed not really connect it although i already wet... but as a sub, when it comes to pain, my mind connected it... but other stuff sometimes close again... btw i'm a switch so u guys didn't get wrong in both side
so anyone can help ? thx