Here is what I do.

Get really really horny!

I usually clamp clothespins onto my nipples and think about that for a few minutes, feel the fire coerce through my bones. Then I use a low speed vibrator on my clit. Slowly I insert a small vibrator into my pussy. I pull it out and use my own wetness to lube my ass and then push it in. Then I re-insert one into my pussy. I usually try to pull up a fantasy and concentrate on that and my clit... I usually hit the roof in a under a minute. Sometimes I have to work slow of it all happens to fast. I always need a nap after doing this though because it completley wears me out.

My suggestion is to just go slow and relax. Being relaxed is really key. you can't put anything in if you are too tight... just relax and think about how you will enjoy it.

Also, I use rope bondage sometimes.. I will clothespin my labia and then tied ropes around my thighs and tuck the clothespin under the ropes to keep myself open.... then sometimes will tie the thigh ropes to something else... kepping yourself open helps because you are less inclined to tighten up or close your legs... HENCE .. you are less tight in the anal region.

Anya