I'm the complete opposite to you mastersgem...
I grew up with apsolutly no male role-model/ father-figure. I guess one could argue that as a result I now look for that in my sex life, which I suppose is true to some extent... as i stated in another post ages ago, i'm definatly part of that "little girl" sub catagory of submission...
But I dunno... I definatly think my submission is a result of my lack of submission in my vanilla life... I had to grow up very quickly and take control of a family that was falling apart, so for me,being able to lay back and take orders is a nice change that i desperatly need to stop me getting overwhelmed by my hectic life...