piggheaded and proud

[tessa]

Can submissives at least eavesdrop on the discussion?

Why not? That's how you learn.

That was me being smart-assy-fied. I was in a mood.

And because I happen to think this is one hell of an excellent question to pose, I will be "listening" in, because I can learn something. I'm hoping others who read the responses will too. I've heard from a few too many submissives lately who are, to some extent, in harm's way because they are with "Doms" who really don't seem to know what they're doing.

At least I hope it's because they don't know. It'd be horrible if they knew better and just weren't.