Quote Originally Posted by SeattleDom View Post
I was speaking with a submissive yesterday. Things went well for quite some time, we were both becoming interested in the other, but then things fell apart. At the time I couldn't have told you why.
Later when I thought about it, I realized my confidence had faltered when I learned she had many years experience in the lifestyle , while I've only had a few. She has had partners serious about BDSM, while I have only found timid ones, who were unwilling to push themselves, or me.
That I let this get in the way disturbs me, it seems a catch 22 situation, and I am not sure what to do about it, or if there is anything which can be done.

Thoughts?
well, Sir, i think having an experienced slave can be over rated. Usually it just means there's more bad stuff to need to help her get over from all the crap "Doms" in her past who've had her first. If the possible baggage and damage is more difficult than One can or will handle, then thats one thing, but i dont think there's anything to be intimidated about otherwise, personally. If the People she's been with before You were what she wanted then she'd still be with Them i assume.