Quote Originally Posted by arwcuw
That actually makes sense to me; as part of my journey of self-acceptance I've been doing a lot of research on the psychology of fetishes, and quite often masochism and sadism seem to result from abuse. The child learns to deal with the abuse by turning it into a turn-on. Obviously this isn't always the case, just a possible outcome.

(That didn't help me with the search for my own "root" so to speak, since there's no sign of abuse in my past.)

Thats one side of it. That the abused learns how to deal with the past by going over it again and again, now in controll over the actions themself, one way or the other.

Also, when abused at young age, thats often this persons first experience with sexual emotions. The way the body react isnt always controllable of moral and sociatys acceptance, and although its abuse, the body can react by being aroused. And your sexual preferences is in many ways linked to your first sexual experience. Be it negative or positive.