We have discussed the issue, but I didn't get very far as he became defensive and said he wasn't keeing secrets, which I assured him I didn't think he was. That defensive reaction was very out of character for him. He has been very open and honest about things in general, past and current relationships etc. He is bisexual and met a male nurse in the hospital and had him over one day for fun and games and he obviously told me about that. I guess what it comes down to is that he tells me about his sex life and things that directly involve me. He doesn't tell me about the daily minutia that make up our lives. I want to be with him so much that I want to know everything as if I were really there living with him. Pretty unrealistic I guess.

I don't think he is necessarily uncomfortable telling me more about his life, I think really its more that things that are over and done with, don't need to be discussed. He just doesn't dwell on stuff. Where as I obsess on things. I also feel flattered that he is so interested in me. I have been an outsider so much of my life that it is wonderful to have someone to spill it all out too. I guess it is just personality differences and my frustration that it isn't real life and isn't likely too be, as we live on different continents. Although we talk about it as if it will happen someday.

Thanks gem and delia for your input. This is so much cheaper than psychotherapy and gives me a place to work through stuff, but still get realistic feedback.