I'm completely in agreement with Tom on this one and have had the same discussion (a few years ago) with my daughter. Basically we agreed she would be stupid to be a virgin when she got married. It's not realistic, nor is it emotionally healthy to expect that you can have only one partner from beginning to end and expect it to be everything. (Yes I'm aware that a very select few couples enjoy this status but it's more the exception than the rule).
No, I'm not advising my daughter to be whore, but to not limit her options by someone (christians) else's rule. Her virginity is hers and hers alone, it's only she who can decide what to do with it and that decision should be based on how she feels, not how society says she should feel.
And all those men surveyed are idiots! Why is it still socially acceptable for men to whore around before marriage but still expect they deserve a virgin for a wife? All those women they've been sleeping with were virgins at some point as well. It's an archaic notion and one that is entirely bs. Women think they've come so far over time with equal rights and blah blah bullshit, they are only kidding themselves lol