Polyamorous or just not sure?

[sidhewolf]

MastersGem I Agree with some of what you write here. It's Very True we are All People First. With feelings, thoughts, and Needs, no matter what Role we have or place we take in this Community. And I Loved your <gag and bleck> about unrealistic certain conditions that do currently exsist in many BDSM/Poly Style Relationship's <G>. True that a persons Dominant is at the forefront of a Submissive or Slaves mind and Heart, but that doesn't remove who a person IS.

Dominants everywhere are Learning more and more every day about this, and how to build Happy successfull Poly Households. There are success stories out there, and successfull BDSM/Poly Intentional Families I know. The ones who have been successfull for a loooong time already Learned and Grew through what most of the BDSM Communities Dominants are just beginning to *get* over the last several years. Which is in part, that this Style of Loving is Consensual. If Your Submissives or Slaves are unhappy and unfullfilled in their purpose of their Relationship with You, You will not be happy either. The Consent can become withdrawn. The happy Poly Home You plan will not happen, because You did not consider and support in action the ones in Your charge.

BDSM is a Power Exchange. One cannot Give Power they don't have. Just something to think about I think, and consider well.....

Respectfully~SidheWolf

[jeanne]

The number is not the point, the point is that we simply need to realize how much we all can comfortably bite off and chew.

That makes sense. Each of us is different - what works well for one person may be completely unacceptable or unmanageable for another, for an infinite variety of reasons.