I find your comments to be somewhat amusing, Faibhar. You assume because you set certain “standards” to which others did not measure up, therefore it is their fault that you are gravely disappointed and disillusioned.

You say you are not elitist, nevertheless, you conduct your conversation in a very elitist tone and manner. woodsman’s game, e e norcod, and I, in responding to your stated disappointment, are first thanked, and then dismissed.

Faibhar, as others have pointed out to you, the world is populated by people large and small, thick and thin, etc. etc. I do not presume to suggest your standards may need reevaluation; I do not know you, nor are we likely ever to meet other than in this place.

That being said, and considering your words above, I do suggest that you take a very long and hard look at the world around you, and see where you fit in and how you may be judged by others. Remember what Galileo Galilei said about the solar system. Perhaps those attending the munch also had no interest in you? That is a possibility you know.

I do not speak of munches et al from experience, for my wife and I do not attend them, although we are aware of many of the players in our local BDSM scene. They too come in all shapes and sizes - some are very nice people, others are not. We simply choose to be more private than public in our sexual interests.

If you do not find what you seek in the places where you have looked, perhaps you are not looking in the right places.

Then again, perhaps what you seek is there, but you have not yet seen it...