i Agree with all you said dave .. but isn't there not more that makes a good sub a good sub..??

i think maybe what needs to be added is also the fact you show your Dom/me at all times how happy, proud and honoured it makes you feel to be theirs .. how honoured you are to be chosen by them and honoured that they entrust you to complete your tasks.. and in what manner you chose to serve them and complete those tasks .. And how proud and pleased you are for getting them done and pleasing your Dom/me

i think a good sub always shows their Dom/me how appreciative they are for being wanted by their Dom/me and for the time the Dom/me spends on their sub as a Dom/mes time is so precious.

Just as a sub needs to be wanted and needed... a Dom/me needs to know that they are appreciated for all they do for us and how honoured we are that they do so... They also need to know we are happy to be under them..

You also have to be honest about your like and dislikes .. it shouldn't be a chore for the Dom/me to figure out all the time.. I feel a good sub will write out their likes and dislikes and what they are willing to try or what they are not .. a good way to do this is to fill out Sir_Russell's "Hard limit questionnaire for both Doms and subs to help them find long term partners"

Link: http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=9385


A good sub takes punishment even when not deemed necessary.. Will allow his or her Dom/me to do as they please with them but needs to hear or see some appreciation for what they do..and in return is very thankful and shows the Dom/me they are..

A good sub shows there desire and need for being a sub and never lets that falter..

A good sub lives to please their Dom and puts their all in when serving under their Dom without hesitation as long as it is within there boundaries.. but also allows the Dom to explore those boundaries and push your limits as you progress in a relationship.. by doing this you show the trust you have in your Dom/me which a good sub must have to be able to serve properly..

I know there is still more ways to be a good sub but theses i felt were important as well I am sure others may add more as time goes by..

Just my opinion
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