I think it has been stated very well above...It seems that if you are honest about the reasons for this not being possibly He should understand, if He doesn't is this really someone you could respect??? If He put two glasses in front of you one with poison and one with none would there even be a doubt that you wouldn't make a choice...you have a child that needs you and your love, so why would you even want to be with someone who would consider putting that at risk...I truly wish for you the strength to hold to this limit and value yourself beyond being a submissive you are a mother! Hugs