*grins* I read this question on a German forum a little while ago, too.

And still, my opinion is that the Dom/sub aspect is very much overrated. This might be ok if you just want to find a casual play partner. However, if you are seeking a person for a relationship, there is so much more that should be "ideal" in the other. We are all persons in the first place, no matter what sexuality we enjoy.

Therefore, I completely agree with caligirlīs advice: Be yourself. If somebody likes you, they will like you for who you are, and thatīs what counts!

Good luck with your search.

P.S.: I find it quite cute that you were brave enough to post that question. Some other "Doms" would never present themselves vulnerable or seeking for advice. They think that makes them appear cool, while truth be told no sub worth the title would want such an egomaniac...

P.P.S.: I found my own Dom on a completely normal birthday party. ;-)