That completely pisses me off! I'm completely mad now! Not at you, Ragoczy, but at that douche bag who looked at her like that! People like that shouldn't even be allowed to *think* the word "slut!" He has zero respect for women, but expects that he can enjoy the benefits of being with one. What a shining example of a PIG.
As you said, submission is a *gift*, not a right or an expectation, and it is a hell of a lot more than some idiot's shallow spank fantasy. This jerk has no clue what goes on between the two of you - or any one of us! To quote one of my favorite literary characters, "Just because you've got the emotional range of a teaspoon doesn't mean we all have." I doubt this sex crazed polo bimbo even has the mental capacity to understand a relationship like this.
I'm sorry things went so poorly and I wish you the best of luck taking kitten to a proper fetish club!