I guess I'm one of those rare folks that met my Master IRL first. I think a lot of folks want those Domly traits so badly in a relationship they look for that first and later on down the road start to figure out if they can or can not patch a relaionship together with the remainder of their personalities. The advice already given is sound, so all I'll add is simply to remember we are more than just Doms and subs, and thus have to fit together in the other more mundane ways as well...