Good point.... yiu have to look for more than the Dom/me traits. There are many other traits that you need to consider. Even without going outside BDSM, you need to know if they have similar tastes to you - no good wanting a 'daddy figure' and meeting with 'school masterly' types, equally no good wanting a Mistress who will have you cross dressing and meeting with those who prefer chastity and cum restriction and prefers their 'men to be men'.