How?

[Shwenn]

I've always known that I was kinky and submissive, but I ended up being trapped in a vanilla marriage for 10 years. After my divorce I decided to actively look for a Dom. However, I was clueless as to how to go about doing that and since I lived in the Bible Belt, I didn't think that it would easy to find munches or clubs or dungeons in my area. I started looking online and began reading the various websites on BDSM and went into various chatrooms, where I began to meet others in the lifestyle. I do agree with Odysseus in that people are not always who they say they are online and I got my heart broken a couple of times. But I am very stubborn and determined and I wasn't going to let a few jerks stand in the way of finding the right Dom for me. And then I found Him and W/we have now been together IRL for almost nine years.

It isn't easy to find the right person, in either a vanilla or a BDSM relationship. But it's not an impossible task.

Did you try to get your ex-husband to indulge your kink? I'm with a vanilla guy and I'm really trying but it's slooooooooooooooow.