Letting one's self go, as in allowing one's self to get...FAT indicates to others that you simply do not care about yourself, and by extension, care about others.
One of the most dynamic and interesting women I know weighs well over 200 pounds, probably close to 300. She dresses beautifully, is smart, funny, and when she enters a room, is the centre of attention because she is so charismatic.

One of the most self-absorbed, cruel and manipulative women I know is a beautiful aerobics instructor, with a body to die for, financially well off, dresses in the latest fashions. When she enters a room, she too commands attention, for her appearance and self confidence. But unlike the former lady, she is no lady and that becomes quite evident in a very short period of time.

My wife is small, slender, and slowly gaining the weight that middle age brings to us all. She shines from within.

The body is merely a shell, the casing in which we all live. It is the individual, the soul if you like, who resides inside that is truly beautiful.

The sad part is, it is human nature to not take the time to look past the outer trappings. And so we miss out on some of the most exquisite pleasures and relationships.

We are animals, social creatures, and it is instinctive to seek out sexual partners for the procreation of the species. Hence the "setting of standards" - I would be hypocritical to say I don't have them for I do. My personal sexual preference is for small, slender women, and have a stated attraction to red hair. So what.

We have within us the power to forge relationships that are far beyond the simple purpose of fucking. We don't need to lower our standards. The first step is to open our eyes.