Quote Originally Posted by Ozme52 View Post
Because I've noticed that I always get more attention with a woman on my arms than when I'm alone. (A phenomena that might make good fodder on a thread of its own.)
Personally for me that would be the end of interest in a man as it would mean off limits. My ménage à trois fantasy is strictly two men. Or just a woman, hehe.

On the other hand I did notice that my interaction with husband attracts attention in public. Most people a polite enough to be subtle in their interest so I usually either don't mind or simply ignore it, but there where a few times when women tried to "walk over me" and get His attention.

Our bdsm thing officially started with words "You do know you are submissive, right". He was stating, not asking.
Much later I asked Him how He had known before I knew it myself - he said it was the way I tilted my head. When I think back: I was more deferential with Him than anyone else (it annoyed the hell out of me but I couldn't help it, still cant, lol); when he stared at me I tried to stare back, but I always gave in and would lower my eyes and tilt my head to the side; I never objected when he took alpha liberties; when it came to sex, He started with little things like giving ordinary orders and seeing how I obeyed, some light "vanilla" bondage, controlling me with His voice. Not sure how to put it in words, but in general I was just softer with him than other people and he could see that, even when in casual company the tone with which I addressed Him was different than what I used with others.

You can never know for sure, but we all send vibes (Doms, submissives, gays) and if suspicious you start by little things and carefully observing reactions of the other party, ultimately however you have to have "the talk".