@ Adriana: *LMAO* I love the expression "barely there dress"!

@ Ozme and Kuskovian: It is true that to some women (maybe even most?) the fact he is taken, or the wedding band, make a man very attractive.
I donīt know why this is so. I myself am with Adriana here: If a man is taken, he is off limits. I find pursuing a taken person rude, cruel, and disgusting in the extreme.

I read in some psychology works that the reason for this attraction is: You have proven you are able to have a long-term relationship, so you are a desireable mate. Who knows.

But I also noticed that one gets more interest when one is in a happy relationship. Maybe it is the relaxed radiation *g*. Nothing is putting one off more than the desperate, whining, begging, nagging sort of guy who advertizes to all the world he is "single, needy, and seeking"...

I experienced the fact that a wedding band makes one more attractive (at least to assholes who look for a casual fuck and not a relationship) myself. And THAT after I thought the come-ons would stop, now that I was visibly taken (I donīt mean to show off, I donīt get that many come-ons, but if I am happy with my man I simply donīt WANT any come-ons from others! DUH!!)!
Hubby reported the same.
We donīt wear the wedding bands anymore for exactly that reason (and we enjoy the dumbfounded faces when we introduce each other on festivities and such, *LOL*).

Back on topic, now. My husband can tell what kinks people have if he looks at them for approximately 2 minutes - it is sufficient if he sees them interact with other people, it is not even necessary that he speaks with the person in question himself.
He cannot describe how he does it. He says he just "sees" it. He also says the majority of women he meets are submissive, no matter if they are aware of it or not.
I found it hard to believe, but after he told me what two of my closest friends were into (whom I had known for more than 10 years each, and whom he had only met once casually without having spoken much with them directly), I tend to believe his "impressions".

:-)