What a brilliant thread, thanks to all involved thus far.
I picked my wife/sub a mile away, I often had my suspicions. However one night a normal nilla party, she stated that her husband now her "EX" woudn't even tie her up. (I know you are all jumping to conclusions and you are all totally WRONG)
This comment confirmed my thoughts. About 2 years later her and her EX parted ways for good we have been VERY happily married for 11 years now!

Approx 5 years ago a mate of mine that is a sub married to a Dom, started asking questions and after we were al full of piss and bad manners answers stared to flow. I asked how he knew we were into the lifestyle, he and his Dom/wife both stated that they'd known for a while.
He said look at her now, you thought you were in a nilla house and she's sitting at your feet.

My wife/sub is a manager at a large company, and several days ago one of the young girls started to tell her about suspension bondage. Then went on to say "C'mon you know what I'm talking about" to my wife/sub.
Due to the professional side of things she didn't ask exacly how the young girl knew, however we are both wondering???

sub wears a normal kinda shop uniform and I am a tradesman and dress as such, yet I have had it asked of me many times???