wow i have learned that everyones opinions somehow interlude into the next. and i love reading them because i learn a llot of different things but punishment wise... everyone has it down... its all subjective. i have never had to use our safeword in the entirety of our relationship. which in a way makes me happy becasue he doesnt push me ya know.. but sometimes now that im thinking about it i kinda like being pushed to my limit if you will.. i dunno.