I don't think sexual kinks are quite as deeply psychological as you are thinking they are.

If you are worried you might secretly hate women, it's a easy enough thing to discover. Pay attention to how you feel around women in power. How do you feel around women in power in completely non-sexual scenarios? Do you get angry in such situations? I doubt it.

...that I’m really a misogynist who’s intimidated by women in power and therefore wants to see them on their knees...
This is what I think your real worry is about. You seem to be skirting the issue that you are attracted to powerful women. Do you think that is damning? I don't.

If you are attracted to powerful women then you respect women. My personality is such that I'm something of a force to be reckoned with. I am an intelligent, ballsy woman. Some men want me because of this. Some men see this trait and want to me on my knees sucking their dick.

None of those men lack respect for women. Men who don't respect women do not find me sexually attractive. Men who don't respect women see how powerful my personality is and call me a lesbian. They think a woman's only real power is in her sexuality.

Men who really do respect women see how powerful my personality is and they find that hot, they find that interesting, it makes them want to do things to me.

What those things are is irrelevant. That's their kink. It may be that they want me to dominate them, them to dominate me, both of us to dress up like furries, have sex in a public place where we may get caught, or just have a vanilla romp. That has nothing to do with anything. It's always the same kind of guy who wants to fuck me but there is no commonality their kinks.

You are attracted to powerful women and you also like bdsm. There's no connection. The former is revealing of your attitude towards women, the latter is just the way you want to fuck.