Quote Originally Posted by geossub View Post
I have to tell him what I want and what I'd like for him to do to me. I'm about to go crazy.
This is exactly right. He is no better at reading minds than you are. He's probably just as uncomfortable about this whole situation as you are. He should know everything you want, don't want, couldn't handle. All limits, hard and soft.

There are forms all over the internet that list all possible activities. You need to fill one out expressing exactly how you feel about each activity. You could also keep a journal that he is allowed to read where you write about your role, what you enjoyed, what you didn't. He is allowed to read it but he isn't allowed to punish you or be upset with you about what you write.

He may be dominant but he is also your husband and, I'm guessing, deeply in love with you. He needs to know that what he is doing isn't really hurting you or causing you to hate him. That's a good thing. Respect that.