Quote Originally Posted by geossub View Post
He expects me to come to him to get things started and if I don't then he gets upset but I can't read his mind. Isn't he the one who's supposed to tell me what he wants? I have to tell him what I want and what I'd like for him to do to me. I'm about to go crazy. I'm just waiting for him to take the lead. Isn't that his job/role?
I've been there and done that!!! It's extremely frustrating when you want to give up control, but the "dominant" won't take it from you. My advice is to go to him and tell him how you feel. While you should be free to express your wants and desires, you shouldn't have to feel as if you're the one directing traffic.

Quote Originally Posted by Kansas Badman View Post
Your husband fantasized that domination meant that he could do whatever, whenever, and that life would be a playground full of exciting sex without effort or consequence. Don’t blame your husband for fading on you here.
I'm biting my tongue right now, but suffice it to say that I disagreed with the entire post except for the first sentence in the quote. The second sentence is positively infuriating!!! It's a common vanilla male misconception that the lifestyle offers relationships that are easy, i.e. easy women who wait on them hand and foot and like being treated like a doormat. When they actually discover what it's all about, they lose interest. Why? Because they're not really dominant. They're just LAZY! All relationships take work, and that goes for all parties involved. There's no such thing as a free ride for anyone, including submissives who ONLY have to give up control. A true dominant enjoys being in charge and will make every effort to learn what you want and need. Again, if the relationship is at a stalemate, it's time to do some serious talking.