oh and ps, for your question in everyday 24/7 its the same, regardless of weather we are "playing a scene" which we dont ever use that paticular terminology ourselves, for us sex is sex, we draw no line no boundaries between vanilla and bdsm sex, and our D/s relationship pervades evry aspect of our lives, from what i wear speak say at school, home work to the bedroom etc, its all part of his dominion, i am his property,

something as mundane as me not using his prefered cup and plates to serve dinner or speaking out of turn in public, even what i do and or say here online (in his pressence or not)can be a test of his will, a sign of my trying to top from the bottom, or even as described by others an attempt to direct what will be done to me etc

of course when yu write a daiary, or speak yur mind, or break a rule knowing the result is a certian punishment, all this is also toping from the bottom, by definitions given previously by others here,

some could even say its just another way of expressing ones wishes, this does not mean your dominant will concede them, but its part of the overall communication proccess and i believe imposible to avoid and wholely nessesary to some degree,

otherwise the result is what some call a doormat for a sub and thats a whole different apple