I did understand what you were trying to say and I do appreciate where you are coming from. I just didn't care. All I could really care about was how attacked I had made you feel. Until that was cleared up, the label discussion was irrelevant to me.

How you treat people is very important. I feel strongly about that. That is truly the basis of my problem with the whole bisexuality thing. People's hearts and emotions do get very wrapped up in sex. I think you should be very careful about other people's hearts.

I see, regularly, that 'so-called' bisexuals are quite careless with 'actual' bisexuals and lesbians.

I do think it is possible to have sex without love where nobody gets hurt. But, just because you aren't interested in love doesn't mean that's how the situation is going to play out. If somebody thinks there is a possibility you might love them and that is not true, they are in a very precarious situation.

I see a lot of callousness. I also see it in a lot of purely straight women who have male friends. They know he loves her but pretend it's just a friendship. They pretend to be unaware of all the possibilities he thinks exist but truly don't.

It just seems to me that, if you had compassion for others, you wouldn't call yourself a bisexual if the possibility of love didn't exist. You wouldn't talk about labels, you would only care about making sure the other person didn't harbor secret, impossible hopes.

That's what really bothers me about it. I don't put bisexuals on a pedestal. I don't put anybody on a pedestal. I think we're all retards. Different groups tend to be retarded in different ways but we're all retarded.

Dan Savage has something called the 'campsite rule'. Whatever sexual relationship you get into, the golen rule is the campsite rule. Do everything in your power to make sure the person is as good or better off than when you found them.

It is possible that my experiences have not been representative of how these people really are. But, my experiences do cause me to think that these women who call themselves bisexual but could never love a woman are the kinds of people who leave trash and smoldering fire.