Why is it cool to be a bi girl

[Shwenn]

I did understand what you were trying to say and I do appreciate where you are coming from. I just didn't care. All I could really care about was how attacked I had made you feel. Until that was cleared up, the label discussion was irrelevant to me.

How you treat people is very important. I feel strongly about that. That is truly the basis of my problem with the whole bisexuality thing. People's hearts and emotions do get very wrapped up in sex. I think you should be very careful about other people's hearts.

I see, regularly, that 'so-called' bisexuals are quite careless with 'actual' bisexuals and lesbians.

I do think it is possible to have sex without love where nobody gets hurt. But, just because you aren't interested in love doesn't mean that's how the situation is going to play out. If somebody thinks there is a possibility you might love them and that is not true, they are in a very precarious situation.

I see a lot of callousness. I also see it in a lot of purely straight women who have male friends. They know he loves her but pretend it's just a friendship. They pretend to be unaware of all the possibilities he thinks exist but truly don't.

It just seems to me that, if you had compassion for others, you wouldn't call yourself a bisexual if the possibility of love didn't exist. You wouldn't talk about labels, you would only care about making sure the other person didn't harbor secret, impossible hopes.

That's what really bothers me about it. I don't put bisexuals on a pedestal. I don't put anybody on a pedestal. I think we're all retards. Different groups tend to be retarded in different ways but we're all retarded.

Dan Savage has something called the 'campsite rule'. Whatever sexual relationship you get into, the golen rule is the campsite rule. Do everything in your power to make sure the person is as good or better off than when you found them.

It is possible that my experiences have not been representative of how these people really are. But, my experiences do cause me to think that these women who call themselves bisexual but could never love a woman are the kinds of people who leave trash and smoldering fire.

[denuseri]

It's not just us girls that can be bi, there is a bunch of guys out there too, i dont know what the big deal is , i allready said my peace earlier, to be honest it sounds as if some people are wanting to make some distinctions that would be discriminatory regarding thier sexuality, what about all the married men out there that run around being in sex only relationships with other men?

all i am saying is to stereotype us is a rather narrow minded point of view, its like me saying all doms just want doormatts and only the doms that dont say thier doms are the real ones etc

[annie]

I have read through the majority of this thread and honestly... why does it even have to be "labeled?" It is their life choices, done in their bedrooms. If you are asked to participate then you have a voice in what is done, if not, it's none of your business. If they make it your business then you can either respond or ignore it. Personally I see my relationships in that area to special to "share" a lot of details openly. It's no ones business but mine, period.

As to the opening statement about most sub missives being bi. Ummm... i'm sub but don't consider myself bi, even though I am currently serving 2 Dommes. Heck, my actual sexual experience with women could pretty well fit on the head of a pin. It isn't the gender that is the turn on for me, it is the power exchange and how well their dominance fits with my submissiveness. Their are as many men out there who don't turn me on either... because the dominate connection isn't there.

So, I don't consider myself bi, hetro, bi curious, or any other "label" i consider my self submissive. Period... a submissive who was damn lucky enough to find the dominate(s) to fullfil that portion of me.