It takes all involved to make this kind of thing work. It is not any one persons failing. Have you sat down and talked about what each wants and what each needs to do to fulfill that? If not I would suggest that. Maybe he is just not sure of what he needs to do, if that is so you can find a mentor. If you have any local groups near you i would suggest getting involved in them and meet those that could possibly train you both. A D/s relationship is a symbiotic one not one sided, so if all are not on the same page it won't work very well.