Good luck boo, i agree with the others on this myself, roundabout punishments with no explanation leave a girl confussed and mis-trusting, and his explaining after the fact sounds like typical passive aggressive un-dom-like behavior, which in the end leads to disunity in any relationship. Punishment unless i am told otherwise such as : "wait till we get home girl" or the like, is allmost allways swift and directly addressess whatever infraction of his will i have failed to uphold or committed a misdeed against.