In my opinion, no matter what you did, staying away without letting you know would be a deal breaker for me.

I am with denuseri here. He broke your trust and caused you to fear by doing this.
I am with Oz in that this is not a dominant (grown-up!) thing to do.

If he is not pleased with your behaviour, the issue should be solved by his BEING THERE and HANDLING the situation, TOGETHER WITH YOU.

One of the things I totally adore about my Dom (who is also my hubby) is that he is never scared of my feelings/behaviours. He is simply there for me.

In my eyes,a BDSM relationship is based on trust. A great deal more trust than in a vanilla relationship, because you present yourself so very much more vulnerable.

I agree with the others regarding the advice to look out if there is a pattern establishing.