Well you could say I have been found out from many people before I truely understood myself. Most girls I went out with when I was younger thought I was too feminine and when it came to sex I could never find any release I thought there was something wrong with me, and all my relationships crashed and burned. I think this was in do to the fact that I was seeking a dominant before I even knew what one was. The last relationship I had before was with someone else who is submissive and while I took the role of dominant more often, when she did dominate it was the happiest moments of my life. I am twenty and it was only two years ago that I couldn't even admit that I sexually enjoyed pain and lots of pain, being pinned down, being hurt, but knowing that through all of that there was someone who was watching over me more then I was over myself and cared so much for me. The current relationship I am in I feel blessed to have found. I know for me it just took awhile to get comfortable enough to stop looking at my self a so different.
I hope that helps
Moonlit