Actually, for me the frustration lies not in my sexuality or fetishes, but with the rest of the world's view of it. People have a tendency to dismiss or scorn what they are unfamiliar with and I think that is the case with BDSM, homosexuality, bisexuality and anything else that would not be considered "normal" by a majority of people.

I think any hangups or 'curses' that lie in dealing with your own sexuality are brought on by society in general. Just my two cents worth...