Hmm, interesting question, warbaby. For me the desires become needs once I've dipped my toe in them, tried them on for a little while...a bit like fantasies turning into reality - when they're good I want more of it. I'd probably never equal BDSM to basic needs like eating or sleep...heck, I wouldn't even put sex on the same level. It's things I can live without if I had to whereas the basic ones are not. But they add to my happiness, my well being, and I feel I need that, too. Life isn't all about what you have to do, but what you want to do, right?

Now, would I go so far as to pay someone for those needs? I don't know. Right now, there's no need for it as I'm getting all I 'need' BDSM wise, I'm fortunate that way. But would I consider it? Maybe...although I doubt that the idea that my 'dom' does this for money will work towards what I want and need out of a D/s relationship - plus, since I'm not in your situation I could always look for someone else. And also, for me an online D/s relationship would work better than paying a professional, ever thought of that? It has an honest dynamic with obvious limitations on the practical/physical side, but at least to me it comes closer to what I need than just the physical scene with some pro.

Just my ramblings...I'm sure there's other people who have better input for you.