Quote Originally Posted by Silke
I'd probably never equal BDSM to basic needs like eating or sleep...heck, I wouldn't even put sex on the same level. It's things I can live without if I had to whereas the basic ones are not.

And also, for me an online D/s relationship would work better than paying a professional, ever thought of that?
Silke,

Thanks for the input. I really wasn't trying to say that the activities were on the same par as basic needs. I was only trying to demonstrate a point that, at least for me, it does seem to become a very important element of my life. I agree it is something that can be lived without. I did that for many years, but once I did experience it, it now seems to be even more of a burning desire, I'll use that term instead of a need. I have not gone back for a second visit and it is most likely that I won't, at least in the near future. Believe me though when I say that I am fighting that temptation every day. I really do not want it to become a need. Maybe I just didn't explain myself well in the start of this thread. I am desperately trying to separate to two, desires and needs, and do, as you say, live without the desires knowing they aren't actually needs. Make sense?

On lone relationship? That isn't something I am not even remotely interested in. It just doesn't have any appeal to me. Once, like Uncle Ed, in a slightly inebriated stage, I sent an email to a lady looking for an on line relationship. She never replied and once I sobered up I was very happy for that and decided that it really wasn't something I wanted to do.